Olga Souler
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Permission to Enjoy: Why We Put Off Happiness Until Later

Do we actually know how to enjoy life, or are we constantly waiting until all our duties are done? Let's explore how to give ourselves inner permission to enjoy.

We are constantly running around, going from one technique to another, just to finally become happy. But do we actually know how to BE happy?

Do we know how to enjoy life and, most importantly, are we ready to give ourselves permission to do so?

Most of us were never taught that life can be enjoyed. Usually, we absorb deep into our core with our mother's milk that life is about have-to rather than want-to; that it's "business before pleasure"; that first you eat your main course, and only then, maybe, you get dessert.

And with every belief like that, we internalized more and more that the good stuff is for sometime later. Sometime when all the "have-tos" are done, all duties are fulfilled, the main course is eaten, and the floors are scrubbed until they shine.

And then we grow up. But we still haven't learned to enjoy. We desperately run from one "have-to" to another, checking off items on our daily to-do list, reaching yet another goal. Yet there is still no enjoyment in any of it.

Now ask yourself a question:

"But how can that be… that's shameful, that's wrong, you're not supposed to do that!" your inner voice might object.

And to that I'll say: until you give yourself permission, until you decide for yourself that you MAY, feeling enjoyment in life will be almost impossible.

Olga Souler
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Olya — an integrative psychologist, a neurodivergent and creative person who loves to question everything.